Homeschool, Public or Private?

As parents, our children's education is one of our biggest responsibilities. And it is every parent's wish to give the best education to his/her children. It has been a challenge for me and hubby to decide which school to send our children especially when we relocated here in Bangkok, where international schools are quite expensive. At first, we thought of homeschooling our kids. But with both of us working, we realized that giving the best time to our job and just the remaining time to our own kids after work would not be the best choice for our dear ones. We are not also experts in teaching them all the subjects they may need to prepare them for getting a good college education. Besides, with the nature of our 2 kids being so outgoing and hyperactive, homeschooling them would limit their opportunity to develop more social skills, leadership, and other soft skills they need to learn by mingling with other kids in school.

So hubby and I had 2 options left for discussion: private or public school. Public schools have good curriculum and programs but if the kids are not in the star or top sections, they are not really well taken care of (except for a few public schools like Science High). With 40-50 students in a class, individual needs may not be properly addressed. Although I argued that there are other opportunities public schools can offer such as the competitions kids can join to make them more skillful in different aspects such as in academics and sports contests up to the national levels, which some private schools don't usually join, hubby looked at the bigger picture by assessing what values and other considerations are more important to us as a family. So we did pray hard for guiding us in our decision and we really felt God's leading with how He prepared the way for us.

All right, so why did we choose private school education? It's not just private education but Christian education. With our kids away from us, although we're praying to be together again next year, we have to be wary of  their environment, which should be safe and wholesome putting into consideration the influences of their peers and adults around them. I'm not saying though that we are fully throwing all responsibilities, such as valuing, to the boarding school even if it's a Christian school. We, of course, are still responsible of inculcating the values and imposing discipline we want them to grow with no matter what. But in our assessment, their school is one of the best in our area that many parents even the most conservative ones I highly respect send their kids there to stay at the dorm, instead of staying with a family at the villages around or outside school apartments.

Back in their previous school,  both of them used to have their own caretaker in our family who would prepare everything for them including their food and their clothes. Now, in their present school where they stay in a dormitory for the first time, they have to manage themselves and their time very well. They have schedule for eating at the cafeteria. If they don't go to the caf on time, they won't be able to eat as it closes in an hour. So this is one good training we want in their new school to help them with their maturity. They have, of course, a very loving and caring dean for each dorm, whom we can communicate with more often. We also love the idea that they have devotional time - both in the boys' and the girls' dorm - every morning and evening for their spiritual growth. They also share a room with other dormitorians so as early as high school, they learn to get along with others through their room-mates. Actually, my 12-year old boy had a problem with this during his first 2 weeks in the dorm as he didn't know how to respect the older boys, which is important in our culture. He has learned his lesson fast, anyway, as his cousin, his senior for 3 years, happened to be his room-mate and he helped and taught him a lot to adjust. 

We have seen so many improvements in our 14-year old girl and 13-year old boy in their new school. They have learned to take their own clothes to the laundry and now they love to iron their own clothes, which they weren't allowed to do before. They have learned to be independent as they also budget their own allowances and above all, they have become more prayerful and dependent on God. My boy used to grumble with our long prayer during family worship time before but now he reported to us that they take turns in praying or leading the daily devotional in the boys' dorm and they usually have prayer bands that take longer. But he beams with excitement when he shares his new experiences at his new school. He's so happy that now he has more time to play tennis, badminton, Frisbee and basketball than in his old school. He has also joined the violin ensemble serving in the church while he is also learning piano and violin. His older sister is also assigned to play the piano to accompany the congregation at worship from time to time or be the speaker during worships or devotionals so they have balanced development, not just academics and sports.

We thank God that their first grading report showed that both of them have excelled in their classes so we give all the glory to God. Despite their being away from us, they have been doing so well. But even if they're doing well academically, we really value more their spiritual growth, the development of their character especially at their formative years which can't be put off at a later time for "what do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul? Is anything worth more than your soul?" (Matthew 16:26).

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