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Monday, November 21, 2011

Unplanned but never unwanted

It's open topic today at Marriage Monday so let me repost my previous article which I haven't shared to MM yet.

I and hubby got an unplanned child but we always tell everyone, "unplanned but never unwanted!".  When I learned that I was having that late pregnancy, I was not ready to accept the reality because I had closed my mind to have only 2 kids. I was then happy and contented having both genders, 2 adorable kids who could always make my day even at the toughest time at work or the most pressing challenges in life so never did it cross my mind to have another one as I was already 40 then. But reprocessing my mindset was not really hard for me especially that I never go for the idea of abortion. My 2 kids who were then 10 and 9 even cried when they learned of my unexpected pregnancy so we explained to them that if we consider abortion, what if it's not successful? We asked them, "would you like to have a sibling who has deformity or handicap?" And they got our message clear. Now, our unplanned baby has grown into a wonderful toddler. He is our glue, our music box and above all, our health-booster and anti-aging secret.

Our unplanned baby is  our glue because he sticks us together. Everyone wants to go home early excited to play and bond with him. Instead of going somewhere else or hanging around, everyone in the household hurries to go home all because of him so we all bond together as a family.

Our unplanned but loved baby  is our music box because strangely, among our 3 kids even if the other 2 are highly inclined in music, our unplanned baby started to sing with the right tune and with a very good expression at an early age. He could sing "Twinkle, twinkle little star" perfectly even before he turned one. There are times that he starts singing the moment he wakes up and he fills our home with music. Just listening to him drives the stresses in life away.


Most of all, this unplanned baby has turned out to be our health-booster and our anti-aging formula. Hubby and I have to stay young, fit and strong as we always think of our late baby. There are even times when I get some minor illness and I think right away of my little boy. I must really get well as I have the fear in mind that if my illness gets worse or if I die, what about my baby? This kind of fear has made me take care of my health all the more. I think that my 2 older kids can already survive without me and will understand the situation, but not my toddler yet.  And he's too young and innocent to be left behind. We have to be strong to play with him and to sustain his needs until he is grown-up. So, he's not only our health-booster but also our main anti-aging  factor. Yes, he truly keeps us young and healthy!

So we thank God for our unplanned baby who turned out to be a great blessing to us all. He is never unwanted; in fact, our late bundle of joy is dearly loved by us all.

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13 comments:

Bobbi said...

How very sweet...He will enjoy reading this post someday!!

Messy Marriage said...

I "am that later in life baby" too! My mom had me when she was two months shy of 40. I think I kept them young and young at heart much longer than their 40 something friends. I'm so glad you are enjoying your late-comer! Great post!

nice A said...

@Bobbie, thank you very much. Hope he will read it someday.

nice A said...

@Messy Marriage, glad to know that your mom shared the same feeling as I had at first. But see? Now you're a great blessing for sure.

Mac an Rothaich said...

Well said! Our fourth was a some what of a surprise and I can't imagine ever holding that against him in fact as you said he is so IMPORTANT to our family.

nice A said...

@Mac an Rothaich, yes, every family member is IMPORTANT. Thank you for coming by.

Will go MM post-hopping later.

Tami said...

Each child is a unique blessing. Glad you recognize God's grace in each of yours.

Susannah said...

Fantastic! I loved this post. Now I'm getting all teary.... (fanning face...)

"He is our glue, our music box and above all, our health-booster and anti-aging secret."

Thank you for sharing this repost for Marriage Monday today. SO delighted to know your story!

Blessings, e-Mom

nice A said...

@e-Mom, it's my pleasure to share this story. I look forward to reading more interesting posts at Marriage Monday.

tonya said...

Wonderful post! I enjoyed reading your inspiring story.

kimmy said...

he seems to be a very sweet little boy. i can imagine your happiness and joy of having him..

tndcallphilippines said...

he is a blessing! and he is blessed to have a family that appreciates him so much. :)

nuts said...

A child is always a blessing! Hopping here to greet you a Merry Christmas!

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